No wait, it's okay. This is a lie that you can do something about.

I'm here, today, to give you a warning about the lie you'll tell yourself on New Year's Eve. Actually there are four lies you'll tell yourself, according to Dax Moy, a UK based personal trainer. In a PDF document he released in 2006, he goes into detail about the four lies and a six-step plan to avoid having your New Year's resolution fall by the wayside as in previous years.  I'll give you a rundown of the document and MY interpretations:

1) This year's going to be different

We say it every year(and sometimes we add "...and this time, I mean it!") , but we never do anything to MAKE it different. It's like how Alcoholics Anonymous defines insanity as doing the same thing and expecting a different result. If you keep on doing what you've always done, you keep on getting what you've always gotten. If what you were doing was going to produce the more and the better, the more and the better would always be here. Do something decisively different this year.

2) The goals don't seem as important anymore

A couple of days into the new year, without the alcoholic beverage in hand, you decide that what you said was kind of unrealistic and not really all that important anyway. Besides, you have REAL work to do, right? Well, hold on. If it was important enough to make it into a public declaration, then it's important enough to follow through on. As Dax points out, the goals are no less important now than when you set them. Many times, once you realize how much work something is going to be, you create an escape route for yourself. Don't give yourself that "out."

3) They're just silly fantasies

Once again, this is a rationalization for why you are giving up, when the real reason is that you got scared. You have to be willing to deal with your fear. Push through the fear. If you don't reach you goal in the specified amount of time, re-adjust and set a new goal.

4) I'll settle in and get sorted

We have to strike while the iron is hot. If you take time to "settle in," you'll never get started. Life has a habit of getting in our way, so we lose our progress.

Instead, we should jump in with both feet and get started. the sooner the better.

1) Know what you want

This seems pretty obvious, but knowing what you want is important. More than that, even ... you need to know EXACTLY what you want. There's an old joke about a out of luck Chrysler salesman, upon deciding that he hates selling American cars, wishes to a magic genie that he could move to a large metropolitan area and have a foreign car dealership. The next day he wakes up in Tokyo with a Chrysler dealership. You have to be specific with what you want. Vague requests bring vague results. What DO you want? What will it look like, feel like, sound like, taste like, and smell like? Make it as real as possible.

2) Know why you want it

We call this the "super why" or the reason behind the reason. All to often, as a trainer, I'll ask someone their goal and they'll tell me their doctor told them to lose weight. If I dig a little bit, I find out that the REAL reason they're sitting across from me right now is that they have a 20 year high school reunion and their old flame will be there, and they believe it will be painful if this special person sees how they let their self go. I don't think I have to tell you that weight loss is HARD. It takes a lot of discipline and a lot of facing those things that have always been challenging. "Because my doctor told me I need to lose weight ..." is not a strong enough reason to be disciplined or face your challenges. You have to find a reason so strong that you say, "Bring it on!"

3) Know when you want it by

Napoleon Hill said, "A goal is a dream with a deadline." Until you put a deadline on it, it's still just a dream. The moment you set a date, you'll start working toward your goal with much more urgency. Please, please, please don't just leave it out there without an end point. It'll sound almost counteractive for me to say this, but it is actually okay to have some open-ended goals. Some long term goals may be open-ended, but you set objectives for yourself that each have deadlines. Either way, you have to be time-specific with some part of your goal.

4) Write it down

As soon as you decide on your goal, write it down along with all of the specifics. You may continue to refine the goal or the details, but get it written down as soon as possible. It may sound kind of metaphysical to say this, but writing it down takes it out of the abstract and brings it into the real world. After you've written it, I like to share it with as many people as will listen to me!

5) Know the price

Every goal has a price. Sometimes the price is financial. Sometimes it comes in the form of time commitment (away from some other important thing in your life). Sometimes the price is the soreness you'll have to deal with, or the disapproving looks and comments you might get from friends and family. Regardless of its form, you'll have a price to pay for your goal. Do some research, if necessary, but figure out what it will cost you emotionally, financially, spiritually, and physically.

6) Pay it

Once you know what the price is, if you still think it's worth it, pay it. Knowing the price is almost like having your strategy laid out. All you have to do is execute it.

There you have it! The 4 lies we tell ourselves on New Year's Eve and how to combat them.

How will YOU make sure this year is different?